5 Irrefutable Signs Your Boss Has a Problem With You On a Personal Level

5 Irrefutable Signs Your Boss Has a Problem With You On a Personal Level It can be easy to convince yourself that your anfhrer doesnt like you as much youd hope. Bosses are busy, often overworked, and they cant play favorites. Frankly, they probably just dont care about making friends in the office anyway, and thats OK. But theres a difference between a anfhrer who is trying to do their job in a fair way and a anfhrer who has a problem with you on a personal level.This difference can be hard to spot, especially if youre feeling extra paranoid lately. So weve outlined a few red flags that indicate your situation might be verging into the personal problem territory, with some help from women in the FGB Community.Sign 1 They actively avoid you in the office.One woman anonymously shared her experience in the FGB Community, saying she has a feeling her boss goes out of her way to avoid interacting with her. And its true that if your boss frequently leaves the room as soon as you enter it, this may be a sign that they dont like you. While some bosses may simply not feel like taking the time to have a conversation, your manager should at least make you feel acknowledged with a smile or greeting of some kind. A good way to tell if this kind of behavior is directed toward you specifically would be to see how your boss reacts when other people walk into a room. Pay attention to see if theyre avoiding everyone or just you.Sign 2 They are unwilling to meet with you.Have you tried to schedule a one-on-one to go over your performance or discuss a future project and your boss seemingly couldnt (or just wouldnt) make the time to meet with you? This is not normal boss behavior. Even if they are incredibly busy (which they probably are), a manager should still try to find the time to meet with you, even if its briefly, to discuss whats on your mind. Thats literally part of their job.Sign 3 They wont make eye contact with you.Another woman in the FGB Community described her boss as being shifty-eyed. Body language can be incredibly telling when it comes to deciding whether or not your boss has a problem with you. When you speak up in a meeting, do they look your way? If it seems they are avoiding eye contact altogether, this could be a major red flag.Sign 4 They are micromanaging you.If your boss wasnt fond of micromanaging you before but is suddenly is all over your every move, there might be something else going on. And if you cant think of a specific mistake youve made recently in your work that would have led to this helicopter manager style, it could just be you in general thats bothering your boss. Ouch.Sign 5 Youre no longer invited in on important meetings.If your boss has been excluding you from meetings you used to be invited to, they mightve had a change of heart regarding your relationship. Its possible there have been policy changes involving those included in meetings, of course. But this generally means that your boss used to want you to be in-the-know and able to offer your opinions or advice on whatever is happening with the company, and now they dont.So, what should you do now?Even if your boss has been actively avoiding meeting with you, you should still try to request a formal review that they probably cant say no to. Jot down your concerns without mentioning any specific behavior you dont want them to feel targeted or attacked. But make a point of asking how they think youve been doing at work, if you could meet more regularly to go over your performance, and what you could do to improve in the future. Mention that youd like to be involved in more projects youve had your eye on, or suggest an idea youve had that you havent been able to express to them. Show that youre still committed and a professional, regardless of what chilly behavior may have been directed at you recently.If the above doesnt result in any changes, consider whether your boss is simply a less-than warm person or if their behavior is actually o ff-putting to the point of creating a hostile work environment. If the latter is true, consider scheduling a meeting with your companys HR. We cant make everyone like us at the end of the day, but chilly, hostile behavior from a boss has no place in a professional setting.--